Is Desire Necessary?

Countless couples – possibly nearly all couples who have spent more than a year or two together – have experienced a loss of interest in sex by one partner or the other.  Often this causes real distress.  One partner may end up feeling rejected, unloved, and frustrated, while the other may feel guilty and inadequate.  … More Is Desire Necessary?

Esther Perel Speaks About Intimacy and Affairs

Esther Perel is a world-renowned couple therapist who speaks and writes about relationships and sexuality. In a recently-begun video series, Perel talks compassionately and non-judgmentally about infidelity, how and why it happens, and how marriages can heal.  She also explains how to help a friend if they have recently discovered their partner has been having … More Esther Perel Speaks About Intimacy and Affairs

Lost That Lovin’ Feeling? 6 Ways to Jump-Start Desire

If the problem persists for some time, the higher-desire partner usually reports that he or she has also lost interest. “I can only take so much rejection,” they will report, “and after a while I just gave up.” Their partner’s lack of interest may have led to their own loss of confidence and they respond by shutting down their own sexual desire. … More Lost That Lovin’ Feeling? 6 Ways to Jump-Start Desire

For a happy marriage, say 5 positive things for every negative one, and find new ways to experience desire

The New York Times posted a blog recently that examined the ingredients for a happy marriage. As anyone married longer than 6 months can tell you, sustaining a happy marriage is not as simple as it may seem. Ask yourself, “What can I do in 5 minutes today to make my partner’s life better?” For … More For a happy marriage, say 5 positive things for every negative one, and find new ways to experience desire