Two years ago, a couple of weeks before Christmas, I lost my dad. The year before that, it was my grandmother. Just last year, my grandfather. To say I am familiar with the process of grieving would be a gross understatement. Grief and I have a tumultuous relationship consisting of crying jags, fits of anger, … More Grieving Through the Holidays
In midlife, you have spent more years establishing a particular lifestyle and, therefore, you have more to lose than a younger person does, when your marriage ends. How can you come out of divorce feeling positive, strong, and even free? … More Divorce in Midlife: Crisis and Opportunity
He didn’t want a marriage with an unavailable wife…while she didn’t want an unfaithful husband! The arguments were about time: how do you make time for each other with all of life’s pressures? … More How Couple Therapy can Help to Save Your Relationship
Countless couples – possibly nearly all couples who have spent more than a year or two together – have experienced a loss of interest in sex by one partner or the other. Often this causes real distress. One partner may end up feeling rejected, unloved, and frustrated, while the other may feel guilty and inadequate. … More Is Desire Necessary?
Remember that no matter what happens, there’s always one at the table who has it worse than all of you combined. The Thanksgiving Turkey. … More Rules for Surviving Thanksgiving in a Dysfunctional Family
The little pink pill known as Addyi, or flibanserin, was released in August 2015 and is due to be released October 17. Will it change women’s lives the way Viagra changed the lives of men? Many are calling it the “female Viagra.” But is that moniker actually appropriate? … More The Little Pink Pill – a Cure for Your Sex Life?
Helping someone you care about when they don’t want help is complex. When do you honor their wishes, and when do you superimpose your own beliefs out of a conviction that your instincts are correct? Several years ago, my husband and I faced this question with my mother-in-law. It was among the hardest and most important things we’ve ever done. … More Tough Love for Bubbie
At first, both Ashley and Denise seemed to have too much animosity toward one another to communicate well during therapy sessions. In therapy, Ashley learned that she could turn to her mom for support in times of distress. … More It’s Not Easy Being Thirteen: Family Therapy for a Mother and Daughter
“Drugs and alcohol don’t discriminate,” says Vanessa Walker, a therapist at Psych Choices with years of experience working with young people. “It’s a way to socialize,” and may sometimes ease the way for kids who have difficulty making friends. … More Drinking, Drugs, and Your Teenage Child
Loss is such a pervasive part of life that it challenges our basic assumptions. When what we hold dear is no longer certain, our ability to trust may be shattered. In my approach to bereavement counseling, I bear witness to your experience of loss: how it was shaped by your relationship with the deceased, and how that absence compels the start of a new story. … More Reflections on Grief and Loss