Couple therapist and marriage researcher John Gottman says there are 4 communication patterns that are so unhealthy for a marriage that when couples do them frequently, they often end up in divorce court.  These 4 patterns are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.  Gottman calls them the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.” I’ve chosen to focus here … More How to criticize without damaging your relationship